Friday, April 26, 2013

My Marriage, and My Diabetes

I was diagnosed in 1945, when I was 6. Nineteen years later I married a wonderful lady named Anita. We will celebrate our 49'th anniversary on May 31. We were married in 1964 when very little was known about diabetes. She knew absolutely nothing about it, and she had no relatives or friends with diabetes. There were no meters to determine my BG levels until the mid 1980's. She had to adapt to my having bad hypos and seizures, while keeping her cool and taking wonderful care of me. I knew I could depend on her, and she depended on me. Our love for each other is first rate. At the present time she cooks for me, tells me the number of carbs in my meals, and watches me so carefully. With all the modern day devices and knowledge about diabetes, I have not needed her assistance with lows or highs since I started pumping in 2007. My control is great. The bad lows I had in the past scared her so much that she still has me test during the night at 1 and 4 AM. I don't have bad lows at night now, but how can I say no? She probably saved my life when I was unconscious with lows many years ago. I do not complain, I test at night, and many times during the day to keep her happy. Now I have been type 1 for 67 years and I have good diabetes health. My wife has helped me to be in such great shape today.

In October, 2012, I fell and hurt my head. Bleeding on the surface of my brain was diagnosed, and surgery was performed for subdural hematoma. I recovered from that, but then X-rays on my knees showed that they both need to be replaced. My wife had a very hard time with all that has recently happened to me and she has been very stressed. She was very rundown and developed a bad cough that led to acute bronchitis. She is recovering, but she is having difficulty regaining her strength. We have decided that her stress over my health problems has led to her present condition. I am doing everything I can for her, and we hope that she will be strong again, so she can have a good summer. She loves working in the yard and her flower gardens.


Having Anita for my wife is the best thing I have had going for me during my life with diabetes. 

7 comments:

  1. Wishing you both health and happiness ahead, Richard.

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  2. Ditto what Kim said. Thank you both for taking such good care of each other!

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  3. Hey Richard - what lovely words for your long life friend and partner in life. The great thing is tho' parts of our body may break down on us - and get replaced (thank goodness for that) - the love that you two have for each other - can NEVER break down (well - in my case - it can when I've had a wacko hypo - but like you - those are a thing of the past with the improvements in the devices/meds we use to stay alive and kicking).

    May your wives flower beds bloom profusely this season!!

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  4. Richard, your love for each other shines brighter than the sun ever could. I hope Anita recovers well, and she can continue doing what she, and you love.

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  5. Thanks so much, my friends! Anita is feeling much better now. She should be fully recovered in time for the big FFL event in Orlando in July.

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  6. I'm so glad Anita is on the mend, Richard! Hugs to you both :)

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  7. Hi! How's Anita doing? I hope she's feeling better and getting better now. You're the boss of diabetes and that's how it should be. It's been 64 years and you're still owning it, which is so inspiring. Your love for each other is so strong that it makes me believe that there's a person for each one of us. I hope for good health for the both of you! Juliana Vanslyke:)

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